We spent the past weekend in Juarez visiting with the women’s co-op with which Las Otras Hermanas (LOH) has partnered.
[For those of you who don't know, LOH is the fair trade non-profit we're starting in an effort to foster economic and community development. In Juarez, we're working with ALDEA, a small community organization that has created a handicraft center for the women in the community.]
We planned to spend Saturday and Sunday with ALDEA, while we reserved Friday night for tweaking our business plan, but things went slightly off course when a huge division within the group nearly dissolved the organization.
Evidently, two of the four people comprising our managing committee had some serious concerns with the organization, mostly rooted in a lack of trust in other members, and communication difficulties. It seems that one member of the organization was convinced that we had lost sight of our goal, and had interpreted our decision to spend the last few weeks solely on our business plan as a sign of our lack of commitment to ALDEA. Another member felt undervalued. One person thought another had too much personal ambition, another person thought someone lacked commitment, and everyone seemed very upset about the fact that, during meetings, I militantly refuse to deviate from the agenda. Everyone felt disillusioned. So we ALL came out with our problems, and reservations and worries and spent six hours hashing out our differences in an effort to try and find a common ground (and convince one member not to leave the organization).
But while we walked away from that meeting feeling a little bit better, and having created some communication guidelines that should help us keep the peace, I nevertheless felt like something was still seriously wrong, something was still missing.
Why were we having all of these problems within LOH when we all worked together so well within Women Beyond Borders? LOH was born from WBB; they can’t be that different, I thought.
The next day we trudged into rainy Juarez, which we found terribly flooded – so much so, in fact, that Vero (our contact from Mexico Solidarity Network) wasn’t able to pick us up at the border as planned because she couldn’t leave her house. Consequently, we spent the morning wandering around the city, wading through streets, until the waters lowered enough to allow Vero to pick us up.

Cassie, Andrea, Vero, Me, and Charis at a restaurant in Pronaf, where Vero picked us up after the rain.

Flooded streets. This was *after* the water had gone down!
On the way to the handicraft center, Vero gave us another tour of the industrial parks, intermittently cursing the flooded streets which nearly stalled our van. Along the sides of the roads, rows of stalled cars were abandoned or being pushed through the water, while some young people took to boogey-boarding in between them. You see, these floods are one consequence of the city’s lack of infrastructure, Vero said.
At the handicraft center, we were delighted to find that a bright mural now covered one side of the building. It had been painted by some neighborhood kids, we learned, who were starting a community art project: they’re painting walls in the neighborhood in an effort to preserve and express their culture, and themselves – using the color and design scheme of the mural we painted last March!
As we sat outside of the handicraft center, someone suggested starting the meeting by going around in a circle and listing one thing each of us likes about ALDEA and one thing each of us likes about LOH. Though a lot of wonderful things were said, I only remember two – because upon hearing them, I immediately realized what we (LOH) had forgotten.

Antonio, one of the founding members of ALDEA, an incredible person.

Vero, Laura and her children sitting outside of the handicraft center before the meeting.
Antonio said, “I like ALDEA because, as myself, I can do nothing. But as a community, we can do everything.” Then Vera added, “This organization is about families, and because it’s about families, we’ve become a family.”
And I realized that LOH’s problem wasn’t about a failure to prioritize ALDEA or solely about poor communication, but about our failure to create and foster a sense of community within LOH.
That night at the motel, I told our group what I thought: that the pressure to not fail, to be professional, to fit in with the excessively corporate tone of Edson and Skysong - combined with the added stress of our petty squabbles and personality differences had a created standard at LOH that dictated the complete division of the personal from the professional. When conflicts arose, for example, our mantra became “Just let it go; You don’t have to be friends to work together.”
Shameful.
Maybe if we were a different kind of organization – one that only cared about the bottom line – we could succeed with that line of thinking. But how could be honestly claim to advocate for ALDEA, commit to their vision, and prioritize their needs, if we don’t espouse the same values that they do?
It wasn’t always that way. In Women Beyond Borders, one-third of our mission is about fostering sisterhood and supporting each other just as much as we strive to support women elsewhere. We appointed a Wellness Chair to maintain the general well-being of members by recognizing milestones, remembering birthdays, and planning social events to alleviate stress and reduce activist burnout. We co-wrote Principles of Unity, for crying out loud! But, somehow, those commitments and values had not carried over into LOH.
So I told the girls that I don’t believe LOH can succeed unless we change that tone and change our strategy and that, instead of committing to LOH or solely committing to ALDEA, we *have* to commit to each other. We should be a family, like Women Beyond Borders is a family, and like ALDEA is a family. And you don’t walk away from your family.
LOH may fail for many reasons – maybe our business plan won’t work, or maybe we won’t be able to market the products successfully enough – but if it fails, it can’t fail because we couldn’t get along or because we didn’t try.
Edson gave us $20,000 of “learning money.” The program knows we may fail, and probably expects many of us to – it’s the learning that’s important, they think. While the members of the cooperative were unanimously deciding to give up forty percent of their already meager earnings to help develop their community, we were getting $20,000 of learning money. That’s privilege. We didn’t earn that, and we don’t deserve that. But we got that. The women of the co-op earn the money they make, and they deserve a lot more than they get.
The four of us often play around about how oppressed we are, but we are excessively privileged. Not only because of the money, but because we (even for a second) felt entitled to entertain the idea of quitting, simply because we didn’t get along. Because at the end of the day, we leave Juarez’s flooded streets for a dry motel 6 in El Paso. Because at the end of the weekend, we come back to Phoenix, go back to our on-campus jobs, open our macbooks, and write blog entries about privilege. We are so privileged.
So we decided to change things. To start caring more about and committing to each other, committing to building a community within LOH that ALDEA wouldn’t be ashamed to partner with.